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Wednesday, 03 April 2019 14:49

Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Breaking up is hard to do.  Those are not my words.  They were said, or sang by a much more talented guy named Neal Sedaka.  He sang those lyrics back in 1976, but they are still true today.  Breaking up is hard to do.  You can watch a performance of the song here.  (Watching this video could result in physical distress for viewers born after the year 1970.)  Staying in a relationship is easier than breaking up even if staying is unhealthy.  One of the main reasons people stay in broken relationships is that however unpleasant and unhealthy the situation is, change can be even more difficult.   Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Samantha Rodman wrote the following in a recent blog post for a website called TalkSpace:

“A common example of fear of change is when a person stays in an unfulfilling romantic relationship because they are terrified of being single, or of the effort and risk involved in trying to find a different partner. People often coast along in unfulfilling relationships, even marrying a person about whom they feel ambivalent, just because they are so scared at the prospect of breaking up.”  https://www.talkspace.com/blog/fear-of-change-why-life-adjustments-are-difficult/

Change is hard to do.  Change is at the heart of what is hard about breaking up for many people.  Change is especially tough when you are in love with Microsoft Office.

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